Legacy Coalition Blog Team May 1, 2023<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Written by Jane Larsen, Director of Connections, Legacy Coalition<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Our grandparenting journey has been brief. Our oldest grandbaby turned two this winter and our youngest is just a few weeks old. Yet in those 750 days or so, we have already experienced unexpected, deep heartache in a season of just plain hard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n God\u2019s Word tells us we will experience hard times\u2014and should even expect them!<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cI have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.\u201d<\/em> (John 16:33)<\/p>\n\n\n\n But take heart\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n In our season of hard, these three words have become a reminder that our sweet Savior has overcome the hard.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As I share this, my thoughts toward the Lord are of praise and thanksgiving, because I can already look back on our \u201chard\u201d and clearly see God\u2019s generous provision of redemption, comfort, and hope.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019ve been a grandparent longer than we have, I expect you will read this with a sense of \u201cbeen there, done that\u201d. In fact, you may be more qualified to share from your experiences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n My hope is to encourage grandparents who face their \u201chard.\u201d It is a high core value of Legacy Coalition to remind grandparents of the hope we have\u2014because of Jesus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When adversity comes, it can feel overwhelming. It often seems like it will actually overcome us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Recently, I was pondering how joyful I felt and was praising the Lord for so many good things taking place in our family. It then occurred to me I felt pretty much the opposite just a few days earlier. I had been gloomy and disheartened. As I pondered a little longer, I recognized a pattern of highs and lows and highs and lows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n We sometimes need the reminder that while we will face valleys, we won\u2019t be stuck there. After each low point that I look back on, a joyful season has followed. I\u2019m so thankful to not be stuck in the valley.<\/p>\n\n\n\n How do we not be stuck? We keep our eyes on Jesus and cling to Him through His Word, prayer, community, and worship. Knowing we will face valleys again, this verse is precious.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cEven though I walk through a very dark valley, I will not be afraid because you are with me.\u201d<\/em> (Psalm 23:4, ICV).<\/p>\n\n\n\n In the Old Testament, God repeatedly told His people to \u201cremember these things,\u201d to remember what He had done and what He had taught them. He told them to make visual reminders to recount His goodness and faithfulness. We are no different\u2014we need to do the same thing. It\u2019s vital and effective to recall all He has done for us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n What has the Lord done for you? What has He taught you in seasons of great joy? What might serve as a reminder of that season?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Choose something to help you recall His goodness and faithfulness when you are in seasons of turmoil. It could be a Bible verse on the fridge or in your car, a photo in a frame, or even something small and private like an acorn kept in your coat pocket or, in my case, a rock on the window ledge. Whatever it is, let that visual reminder prompt you to do what He asked us to do\u2014remember!<\/p>\n\n\n\n I love the quote from Joseph Bayly: \u201cDon\u2019t forget in the darkness what you learned in the light.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s clich\u00e9 to say \u201ckeep your eyes on Jesus,\u201d yet it\u2019s 100% accurate and 100% necessary.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Think of the great visual God gave in the story when Peter walked on the water toward Jesus. It seems when he took those first steps, trusting Jesus, he walked on the water. Then that big, game-changing word shows up\u2014but. <\/em>\u201cBut when he saw the wind, he was afraid and, beginning to sink, cried out, \u2018Lord, save me!\u2019 Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. \u2018You of little faith,\u2019 he said, \u2018why did you doubt?\u2019\u201d Peter had his eyes on the storm, and he started to sink. We are prone to do the same thing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n During our hard season, a stretch of days where I was clearly not focusing on Jesus, I shared with a friend that something seemed wrong with me. I said, half-jokingly and half-deeply serious, \u201cIf you hear I\u2019m dead, just know I probably had a heart attack.\u201d Oh my. Even writing that now sits very differently. My body felt the stress of our story, and my choice to be independent of the Lord working in His way and His timing had brought many physical side effects.<\/p>\n\n\n\n How do we keep our eyes on Jesus? I don\u2019t know anything better than daily time with Him through His Word\u2014my Bible and time spent talking to Him and listening. The more I do this daily, the sweeter it is.<\/p>\n\n\n\n We live in a time in history with abundant access to spiritual encouragement. My list includes my Bible, prayer, Bible studies (check out She Reads Truth), worship through music in the car, at church, and at home, serving Him by volunteering, and time with Christian community. What does your list include?<\/p>\n\n\n\n How do you keep your eyes on Jesus? Do those things. Do those things. Do those things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Please reread the last three sentences.<\/em> ????<\/p>\n\n\n\n For us, our season of hard caused us to reach out for advice. In the early days, we just wanted help, and we needed the wisdom of others who had gone before us and others we knew would pray for us and encourage us to keep our eyes on Jesus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n That meant being vulnerable and sharing what was going on. Oh, the risk in that! It can be so difficult. For the most part (and I did not say all), the people we reached out to responded with empathy, love, support, and, when possible, practical help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The words we received through emails, text messages, and face-to-face were often like blankets of comfort and hope for my weary and broken heart.<\/p>\n\n\n\n We met in person with our \u201cA-Team\u201d\u2014our circle of friends we have chosen to do life with. As we shared our story over mediocre tacos in the middle of a busy restaurant, we cried. They cried. I felt so completely loved and secure in that moment. I was struggling with my own shame and my fear of others\u2019 thoughts and was met with grace, compassion, and support. They were truly the best representation of Jesus for us\u2014and they still are. They have traveled this journey with us, and they are also sharing in the joyful moments now. We already see God\u2019s redemption story taking place. We invited them to join with us in a hard time and they accepted our invitation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Find your people and lean in. Invite them to ask you how you are doing. Keep them updated on prayer needs. Let them know your struggles and joys. As they walk the rough road with you, they too will see God\u2019s redeeming love in your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In addition to our \u201cA-Team,\u201d we have found great support from our church leadership and community, and a few other experts who have been able to offer important guidance and information. God provides and equips in different ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cSurely your goodness and love will be with me all my life.\u201d<\/em> (Psalm 23:6)<\/p>\n\n\n\n Oh, I love those words. Surely, certainly, of course\u2014God\u2019s goodness and love is with us always as we abide in Him. 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Don\u2019t get stuck.<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
2. Remind yourself of God\u2019s goodness and faithfulness.<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
3. Know where to keep your eyes.<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
4. Play as a team.<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Schlussfolgerung<\/h4>\n\n\n\n